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5 Tips - How to Keep Your Summer Romance Alive

Summer love can be fun but also stressful if you have a habit of sabotaging holding handsrelationships. The pattern of crash and burn dating is hard to break because your subconscious mind tends to draw you to the same situations and people again and again.

Here are some tips to make your summer romance last until the air grows

chilly in the fall and hopefully transform into a long-lasting relationship.

1. Do the opposite. If you are in a new relationship, do not automatically fall into the same patterns that did not work for you in the past. No matter how strong the pull, try to resist the common behaviors that drove the person away before and take a risk by acting against your fears. You may find that a new approach is both beneficial and freeing in keeping the person interested.

2. Hold on Loosely. Remember that old song from the eighties? Think of holding a pen in your hand. If you grasp it too tightly your writing will look forced and too loose will make it sloppy. When you were just beginning to use the pencil, you had to find that sweet spot where you hand held it just right. Find that balance in your relationship. Do not force love or rebel against having it at all. There is an energy when there is just a little bit of tension to keep both parties interested that keeps the fire burning between the two of you.

3. Keep your current life. Do not blow off your friends to completely dive into your new relationship. When someone new arrives, your social calendar does change. Your true friends can help you keep your feelings in check because they truly care about you. Your partner will find it attractive that you have another life besides what he or she offers you. Nothing puts more pressure on a relationship than the other person revolving their whole life around you when they do not even know you yet.

4. Take it slow. If you are meant to be together, there is a whole lifetime to spend together. So many relationships end too soon because one or both people try to squeeze the evolution of an entire relationship in one week. Do not jump in with both feet because you are only seeing the surface of the other person. Be patient and allow the romance to take its natural course.

5. Play Big. Sometimes when you really want a relationship and someone sails into your life, you immediately put them on a pedastal as the savior to your lonely existence. By doing this, you automatically put them above you and place yourself in mental state of trying to earn their love. When you play small, the other person subconsciously feels your inferiority and then gets turned off. They will not be able to put their finger on it, but all they will want to do is get away from you.

If you come from a place of “I am the prize,” the other person will feel like they are the lucky ones and treat you like the prince or princess. You will get the love you truly deserve.

Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, “Let Love In.” Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at http://www.attractreallove.com

Secret Plan to 'Get Your Love Back'

So now that you know all the things to avoid when you want your love back, it's important that you take action right now to work on these changes. Now here is a simple guideline to follow that will help you get your love back:

As I have mentioned, it’s important to have a well-structured plan if you want your love back. This is by no means an in-depth step-by-step of the process but it will get you well on your way.

#1 - Resist making the mistakes listed above and agree with the break up.

Being agreeable to your partner will show them that you ARE listening to their needs and you’re mature enough to handle the break up.

#2 - Limit contact.

If you’re separated, either temporarily or officially, limit how much you communicate with your ex for now. Use this time to gain another perspective on your situation and for the air to settle.

If you’re still together but things are bleak, talk reasonably with your partner about what you’re feeling and where the relationship may be going. Remember although this may lead to a break up, it’s better to know now than to constantly question and worry about the outcome of your relationship.
Either way you need to have a heart-to-heart with your partner and find out exactly what each of you want, and what you’re willing to do to keep the relationship moving forward.

#3 - Keep busy and re-evaluate your life goals and ambitions.

The best way to recover or heal from a break up is to refocus your life around other priorities that might have been neglected during your relationship. Use this time to improve your health, get fit, improve your finances and reconnect with friends and families.

Here are some ideas:

# Start a blog - blogging about things you're interested is a great way to refocus your life.

# Learn a new musicial instrument – or if you have slacked off from previous musical interests, this could be a nice time to start.

# Lose weight and get fit – not only can you start to gain confidence from exercising and eating healthy, moving your body is also a natural antidepressant.

# Make some extra money online . - Making some extra bit of money can be very rewarding and quite fun.

# Start dating casually . - Have some fun by going out and meeting new people.

# Learn to speak a new language .

# Join an interest club or meet . - Meet up with people with similar interests.

# Participate actively in online communities . Helping others with their problems will make it easier for you to cope with yours.

# Read a book .

# Start a novel .

#4 - Keep your eye open for new love and new opportunities.

As much as it will hurt to move on from your partner, it’s deadly to cling onto hope. Don’t place the fate of your happiness in someone else’s hands. Start to take control of your life and move onto better opportunities.

#5 – Re-establish a connection

Slowly increase contact with your partner. Remember though it's very important you have a period of no contact or limited contact to put things into perspective.

There are no set number of days you should wait but if you really want a number to follow, most will suggest 30 days. I recommend no contact for at least 30 days, after which you can get back into your ex's life. The thing is to take things slowly! Don't jump if they show you the slightest bit of interest and certainly don't sleep with them before you're officially back together!

Here I've listed some of excellent resources for bringing back lost love:

Magic of Making Up - Easy to follow and fast working method for men & women.

How to Get Her Back For Good – Excellent resource for men looking to reunite with his woman.

Save My Marriage Today – Most comprehensive resource for marriages in danger.